Well, I gave up detours.
The Lord, in the Gospel, explains in what His new commandment consists. He says in St Matthew: "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I say to you, love your enemies ... pray for those who persecute you." No doubt, we don't have any enemies in Carmel, but there are feelings. One feels attracted to this Sister, whereas with regard to another, one would make a long detour in order to avoid meeting her. And so, without knowing it, she becomes the subject of persecution. Well, Jesus is telling me that it is this Sister who must be loved ...In this passage from St Therese of Lisieux's Story of a Soul, she describes how we often take "detours" around the annoying and unlikable people in our lives. Therese goes so far as to describe these detours as forms of persecution. Consequently, a practice of her Little Way involves not taking these detours and seeking out loving interaction with these people in our lives.
That's one of the things I gave up for Lent. It's also one of the crosses I took up to bear. I tried to be welcoming. Even when there were ... ummmm ... "feelings".